Before Judgement

I met this girl. She worked with me and I liked her well enough at first. We seemed to enjoy talking. But then one day she suddenly started to talk about really sexual things. She would say the sickest comments that seemed to stick in my mind for days. I judged her hard core. I thought she was the biggest, nastiest pervert ever. I couldn't believe the things she would say, The things she would ask me about, and the comments she would make. She had no filter at all! They were probably the most graphically, profane comments I've ever heard. So....... I wanted to stay away from her.

One day, we both got stuck working side by side and I thought, "Oh great, now I have to work with this perverted girl." But in the midst of our talking about life, about men, and about relationships. She said, "Why do women always want to be wanted?" I knew that was a opportune moment for me to share the Gospel.

So I started talking about God. I told her that we were all created to desire to be loved and only God can do that in us. I followed all that by saying, "Hey. God loves you. He loves you a lot!"

She glanced at me and said, "No he doesn't! God f**king hates me."

"What?" I replied. "Why? Why do you feel that way?!"

"Everything bad happens to me!" She went on and on for some time about minor things and things that really didn't seem so bad. But then she added, "I was raped by my dad up until I was 18. It started when I was five." She went on to tell me the story of her life.


Her story my friends was the saddest thing I'd ever heard. No wonder she talked the way she did. No wonder she had no idea about what is appropriate and what is not. She was treated horribly. She had been molested for 13 years!!! And no one would stop him. He did unthinkable things to her.

I had no idea that she went through all that. The point is that sometimes we won't understand people.we work with, people we talk to, or people who are perverted. Sometimes they will do things that are terrible, nasty, horrible and down right ungodly. But, you have no idea what they've been through. That's why it's so important to love them and not to judge them. Clearly something in their lives went so badly that it made them act out.

I now know how to love this girl. I can write her letters. Pray for her, and ask God to show her what a Father's love really is. She is one more person I can reach for the Gospel!

But, it served to awaken me. Where would I be if I had gone through that? maybe in the same spot as her. My heart totally broke for her. If you're reading this, please pray that I will have the words to speak to her. Please pray that God will begin to change her heart, Please pray that she will come to understand the Father's love.